Helping a family member make the adjustment to a nursing home or other care facility can be one of the most difficult tasks any family can face. Living at home, in "your own space," may seem easier than accepting the rules and requirements of a new place. The move may require a person to leave many personal possessions behind, including items that have always been tied to his or her sense of independence and comfort level.

Anger, confusion, depression, disorientation, illness, and grief commonly result from such a move. It is important to remember that these emotions are all normal. Help your loved one to understand this and encourage him or her to work through the emotions and share a sense of feelings.

You can also help by being involved in the moving process. Remind the person that the facility's rules are for his or her safety, but that these rules still allow him or her to have a home, whether it is an apartment or a bed in a shared room. Find out what is most important to your loved one in terms of a comfortable home environment, and help keep these memories, possessions, and people in his or her life.
Be inventive…you might try helping your loved-one write and read letters from family, friends, and neighbors.

Additionally, offer to take pictures of important possessions and hang them in prominent places in the new residence.

Most importantly, help your loved one understand and remember that moving was necessary for his or her safety and health, and that although the new surroundings are different, there are positive aspects to every living environment.

--"The Vintage Voice" Volume 10, Issue 11, a publication of the Southwest Missouri Office on Aging in Springfield, Missouri

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