TIP 1
Avoid unproductive time in the doctor's waiting room. Call before leaving for your appointment to see if he or she is running on time. A last minute emergency could still put him or her behind and leave you impatient as you think about all you have to do. Bring along some favorite reading materials, or a small project that you've wanted to get done.

TIP 2
Establish a people file of the individuals you've done business with (plumber, physician, druggist, hospital personnel, insurance agent, baker, etc.). Include in their file the work they did for you the results.

TIP 3
Put the telephone numbers of all emergency services and personnel near your telephones. Keep extra copies with you at all times.

TIP 4
If you or your loved one requires medication when traveling, don't pack it in your suitcase. Always carry it in the plane with you. Also, if the prescription requires a cooler temperature bring a small cooler with you to keep the medication at its proper temperature.

TIP 5
Do not underestimate the soothing effect of music and the pleasant memories it can bring to the mind even with individuals suffering from advanced dementia. Hearing and responding to music is one of the last things to go. While they may no longer be able to verbalize their appreciation, watch their face when you play their favorite song.

TIP 6
Shadowed areas are potential tripping areas for your loved one. Install fluorescent lights, frosted bulbs, shades or globes to reduce glare and to spread light evenly. Avoid high gloss, slippery floors and throw rugs.

TIP 7
When caring for a significant other, negative feelings and emotions are often only a sigh away. When that happens, you need someone who will validate your own reality, however unpleasant it may be. Join a support group or cultivate friendships where you can talk honestly and can feel guilt-free about how you are really doing.

TIP 8
Don't let what you are doing become more important than the person you are doing it for. For example, a home-cooked meal is wonderful, but sometimes fixing only sandwiches and a salad so that you can take the time to listen to a loved one may be a more important and satisfactory for both of you.

TIP 9
Keep a list of things that you would like to have done "sometime" but are not immediate concerns such as minor repairs and cleaning. The next time individuals ask what they can do to help, let them pick from your list.

TIP 10
Life, to maintain its balance, requires give and take. Don't be just a caregiver. Take time for yourself too. In other words, be a caretaker too!

For information on Family Caregivers visit the site online: www.caregivers.com

Printed with permission from the Springfield, MO office of Southwest Missouri Office on Aging.